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NJ Father Sues State Over Secret Gender Transitioning Policy

NJ Father Sues State Over Secret Gender Transitioning Policy

Complaint: Living a “double life of deceit and secrecy” without their parents’ consent, experts say, is “psycholocially unhealthy” for children.

Earlier this month, a New Jersey father of three high school students filed a federal lawsuit against his local school district and the state over its secret social transitioning policy. A ruling in the father’s favor could be a breakthrough for parents fighting for their rights to be involved in their children’s care and upbringing.

The father’s court case comes as schools across the country continue to double down on similar social transitioning policies—policies that facilitate students’ requests to change sex by changing their names, pronouns, and restroom access—all without the parents’ knowledge or consent.

Those are the rules nationwide. If parents object to them, schools say that just shows what transphobes they are.

And, the argument goes, it shows why these policies are necessary: to protect trans kids’ “rights” and to keep them safe from “harm”—in their own homes.

We’ve chronicled the controversy over secret social transitioning in public schools these past several months here:

In New Jersey, the State has been on the warpath ever since four of its school districts passed policies to notify parents when their children tell staff they want to change genders. Governor Phil Murphy promptly sued those districts for defying its policy—a policy which is not mandatory—and which, as in other states, directs schools to keep it a secret from parents when their children decide they belong to the opposite sex.

According to the State, though, keeping parents informed discriminates against trans kids. In an interview, Murphy downplayed the conflict with parents, insisting that while “parents are always involved,” the State had to sue the school districts to “protect the rights of these precious kids.” The court agreed this past August, temporarily blocking parental notification while the legal proceedings play out.

The State’s strategy of avoiding direct confrontation with parents worked. As we wrote then:

Reframing the conflict between parents and the State as one over protecting “trans rights” provides the State with the pretext to assert control over the children entrusted to its care—without having to confront their parents and their pesky rights in the courtroom. At least not directly.

Until now, that is. In his complaint, the father, Frederick Short, asks the court to strike down the policy because the State exceeded its authority when it passed it and because it violates his parental rights to direct the care and upbringing of his children.

That’s because the State-sanctioned secret social transitioning is properly characterized as a medical intervention that must involve the parents to ensure the child’s well-being, according to experts cited in the complaint.

But the State’s guidelines do just the opposite: they draw students into intimate conversations about their gender delusions with school staff—conversations that purposely exclude their parents.

From the complaint:

[T]he Guidance invites students to have open but confidential conversations with school district personnel regarding their gender identity or status. These are serious conversations that do not feature parental involvement. Schools are then required to accept a student’s gender identity alteration request without parental consent, and such chosen gender identity and pronouns are required to be utilized by school personnel. This gender identity change can occur without any threshold diagnosis or treatment. The student can dress in accordance with his/her preferred gender identity.

And as in other cases, to keep up the charade, school policy tells staff to keep two sets of books:

Separate and distinct school files/records are required for the birth name and chosen name, and school personnel are directed to amend all pertinent personally identifying document so as to ensure consistency, “To ensure consistency among teachers, school administrators, substitute teachers and other staff, every effort should be made to immediately update student education records (for example, attendance records, transcripts, Individualized Education Programs, etc.).”

Accordingly, not only are parents entirely removed from the conversation regarding a student’s gender identity/status, but through the school’s facilitation, transitioning or transgender students can lead double-lives whereby they adopt different name, pronouns, and apparel than is the case in their home life or other areas of their lives.

The Guidance actively promotes deceit, wherein confidential conversations – regarding the very grave subject matter of gender identity – are conducted outside the realm of the family circle, where such conversations should rightfully be.

But living such a “double life of deceit and secrecy” without their parents’ consent, the complaint’s expert says, is “psychologically unhealthy” for children:

For a child to live radically different identities at home and at school, and to conceal what he or she perceives to be his or her true identity from parents, is psychologically unhealthy in itself, and could readily lead to additional psychological problems . . . Extended secrecy and a ‘double life’ concealed from the parents is rarely the path to psychological health. For this reason, at least, schools should not support deceit of parents.

That is exactly the conclusion a Wisconsin state court came to earlier this month when it ruled in favor of parents who challenged their school’s gender identity policy. Social transitioning, the court said, was “undisputedly a medical and healthcare issue” within the parents’ purview.

As in Wisconsin, the New Jersey federal court is now faced with the common-sense argument the State didn’t want to have over parents’ rights this summer. Short’s lawsuit reorients the debate away from the State’s dubious position that trans children’s rights override the rights of their parents to oversee their medical care—rights which, as many have pointed out, do not so much as allow a child to take a Tylenol in school without parental permission, even in the blue state of New Jersey.




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Praying for the big win here to stop this utter insanity!

The State has become just one more evil among ever growing evils in our society. It should not be a surprise which political side this governor and his state belong to. Patterns emerge fast.

    JackinSilverSpring in reply to Whitewall. | October 26, 2023 at 9:35 am

    Fully agree with you that this evil. If these children are suffering from gender dysphoria, they need therapy not surgery. To leave parents uninformed about their children’s dysphoria is malpractice. If the parents do not succeed in court, they should either place their children in a private school that will keep them informed, or homeschool them. Leaving the children in public schools that no longer educate but indoctrinate is not good for the children, the parents and society.

      I have a feeling that what we have been calling our ‘culture war’ is just a warm up for an all out open hostilities culture war. If parents have to submit to the state’s will about altering their children, well, we are deep in depravity. The same depravity we are seeing in the domestic reaction to HAMAS’s slaughter of innocents.

2024 is the last year (IMO) that “trans rights” will be a big deal. The next issue (again IMO) is free money (welfare, social security, medicare, etc.) for illegals.

E Howard Hunt | October 26, 2023 at 9:46 am

It’s ironic that these hysterical teachers can devote so much time to ensuring their pupils can use the wrong restroom, while at the same time these illiterates don’t know how to punctuate the gender-specific loos.

If a policy Democrats/Leftists have always wanted did not meet the approval of the voters, then the courts helpfully step in and invent a constitutional right that centers around that policy. When Leftists did not like the Connecticut law that prohibited the sale of birth control, the Supreme Court invented a right to privacy for the state law to violate. Presto, policy is now a constitutional right.

Now how about a right for children — in accordance with school policy — to not telling anyone about their well-though decision that they are no longer the sex they were born with? Coming soon if SCOTUS changes hands if Democrats win in 2024.

“Complaint: Living a “double life of deceit and secrecy” without their parents’ consent, experts say, is “psycholocially unhealthy” for children.”
But perfect if you want to create the next Hitler Youth or Red Guard.

New York State has also issued regulations regarding a child’s choice of gender that will be done in secret:

“Creating a Safe, Supportive, and Affirming
School Environment for Transgender and
Gender Expansive Students:
2023 Legal Update and Best Practices”

This is one of many reasons why we need to get government out of education.

Encourage child to believe they can fly, give them paper wings, shove them off the roof.

Its child abuse.

2nd Ammendment Mother | October 26, 2023 at 6:00 pm

“Complaint: Living a “double life of deceit and secrecy” without their parents’ consent, experts say, is “psycholocially unhealthy” for children.”

It’s also a warning sign of sexual abuse by a child predator.

What if the schools secretly baptized the children?