Transgender Woman Who Transitioned at 19 Now Says She Wasn’t Old Enough to Make That Decision
“Given the strong cultural forces today casting a benign light on these matters, I thought it might be helpful for young people, and their parents, to hear what I wish I had known.”
Corinna Cohn is a transgender woman who transitioned at age 19 and wrote an opinion piece for the Washington Post in which she says she was too young. It’s not a regret piece but it’s still cautionary.
What I wish I’d known when I was 19 and had sex reassignment surgery
When I was 19, I had surgery for sex reassignment, or what is now called gender affirmation surgery. The callow young man who was obsessed with transitioning to womanhood could not have imagined reaching middle age. But now I’m closer to 50, keeping a watchful eye on my 401(k), and dieting and exercising in the hope that I’ll have a healthy retirement.
In terms of my priorities and interests today, that younger incarnation of myself might as well have been a different person — yet that was the person who committed me to a lifetime set apart from my peers.
There is much debate today about transgender treatment, especially for young people. Others might feel differently about their choices, but I know now that I wasn’t old enough to make that decision. Given the strong cultural forces today casting a benign light on these matters, I thought it might be helpful for young people, and their parents, to hear what I wish I had known.
I once believed that I would be more successful finding love as a woman than as a man, but in truth, few straight men are interested in having a physical relationship with a person who was born the same sex as them. In high school, when I experienced crushes on my male classmates, I believed that the only way those feelings could be requited was if I altered my body.
It turned out that several of those crushes were also gay. If I had confessed my interest, what might have developed? Alas, the rampant homophobia in my school during the AIDS crisis smothered any such notions. Today, I have resigned myself to never finding a partner. That’s tough to admit, but it’s the healthiest thing I can do.
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The author deserves pity for her youthful mistake.
Yes, and the Murphy administration in NJ that, starting next September, is mandating gender identity instruction in public schools by the end of second grade deserves to be removed. NJ just ranked dead last, after NY, in Covid outcomes based on health, economic and educational results. These folks should be laser-focused on the 3 R’s.
I have pity on the author, but unrelenting opposition to what the Murphy administration and other blue states are mandating re gender fluidity which is yet another way of mainstreaming Marxist brainwashing and the destruction of the family.
HIS mistake. HIS
Betrayed the rest of her own life by poor decisions in the doctor’s office.
Doubtless did likewise to the rest of us by poor decisions in the voting booth.
Flipping a coin will yield results as good at that.
So will flipping a vial of nitroglycerin.
That would be flipping out.
his life he is still male.
My sister-in-law who transitioned from brother-in-law did it at age 35. She believes that someone needs to be in mid to late 20’s or older and have lived as an adult in their actual sex before they are ready to make such a drastic change. In her case, she already had children as a he before becoming a she.
Little kids and young adults don’t realize how much they may eventually regret not being able to have their own children. Yes, some transgender individuals retain their fertility, but not many, and they have a very low probability of ever reproducing.
One approach would be to enact laws in as many states as are willing to consider them to set the age for consent to gender surgery to 21 years of age. Kids younger than 21 still have a lot to learn about life.
I think that many older adults fail to consider the powerful force of peer pressure. When I was young, there was great peer pressure to stay heterosexual in the gender of ones birth. Today, there is incredible pressure to be cool and consider homosexuality or gender reassignment, etc. There are a number of documented cases of women who became “lesbian” while living in a dorm, and then suddenly heterosexual as soon as the moved away from the dorm.
Really, that’s unremarkable if you consider the similarities between dorm housing and prison housing.
In my extended family is a young cousin who, bullied relentlessly since kindergarten, took refuge in the middleschool’s lgbtq support community where “allies” were welcome, They offered the kid a place to belong, and thus securing some protection both by having a peer group and from adults who are offering special person status to the group. In 6 months she went from dresses and glitter lipgloss to announcing that she’s really a he. If anyone mentions that something she owns is even remotely feminine, she immediatly discards it, no matter how much it was previously treasured. Right now her mother (a basket case in her own right) supports the nonsense while her father doesn’t. Usually, if you are dealing with a kid who is likely to grow up other than straight, there are signs. In this case, it blindsided everyone but her mother, who’s always encouraged such things. Peer pressure and the need to belong are Powerful forces.
HE was a fool.