Katy Perry Kissed a Boy, and He Didn’t Like It
A young man auditioning for American Idol was surprised when Perry kissed him on the lips
An American Idol episode filmed last fall and aired this week has created some controversy. Katy Perry, a judge on the show, surprise-kissed a young man on the lips just before his audition.
He told the NYT that this was his first kiss, and that he had been saving this milestone for his first relationship.
When Benjamin Glaze, at the time a 19-year-old cashier from Enid, Okla., auditioned for “American Idol,” he had hoped his big moment would come as he belted out “Stadium,” a song he wrote himself. That or Nick Jonas’s 2015 single “Levels.”
Instead, it came when the popstar Katy Perry, a judge on the show, surprised him by kissing him smack on the lips, moments before his audition. He had never been kissed before.
“I was a tad bit uncomfortable,” Mr. Glaze said by phone this week, after the incident aired on the season premiere. His first kiss was a rite of passage he had been putting off with consideration. “I wanted to save it for my first relationship,” he said. “I wanted it to be special.”
“Would I have done it if she said, ‘Would you kiss me?’ No, I would have said no,” he said. “I know a lot of guys would be like, ‘Heck yeah!’ But for me, I was raised in a conservative family and I was uncomfortable immediately. I wanted my first kiss to be special.”
Glaze does say that after processing the kiss, he he has come to terms with it because it wasn’t a real first kiss, just lip contact.
The New York Times continues:
When he returned home, Mr. Glaze worked through his feelings about the kiss by talking to his friends. “They agreed with me that it didn’t really count,” he said. “It was lip contact versus a romantic situation with someone you care about. That’s what a real first kiss is.”
Given the #MeToo climate, Perry has received some backlash for the unwanted kiss, even though Glaze says that “he does not feel he was sexually harassed.”
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Responding to the mini-controversy, Glaze wrote on Instagram:
Hi everyone, I would like to clear a few things up for anyone who is confused, concerned, or angry. I am not complaining about the kiss from Katy Perry at all, doing a few news reports and being interviewed by many different reporters has caused some major questions. The way certain articles are worded is not done by me, and my true intentions are not accurately represented in every article you read about the situation.
I am not complaining about the kiss, I am very honored and thankful to have been apart of American Idol. The main purpose for the show is to find stars and new music artist. I do wish I would have performed better in the moment. I should have picked another song to sing and calmed myself down regardless of the kiss. I should have been able to perform under pressure.
I do not think I was sexually harassed by Katy Perry and I am thankful for the judges comments and critiques. I was uncomfortable in a sense of how I have never been kissed before and was not expecting it. My main goal is to reach people through the universal love of music and not cause strife or anger against anyone or about any situation! Please take into consideration that I don’t believe my views have been appropriately communicated through the media! Thank you to everyone who has followed me in this journey and I hope I answered a few questions.
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If the genders were reversed, “Mr Perry” would be destroyed.
The problem with these “if were reversed” statements is that the reverse would never happen. Simon Cowell wouldn’t dream of kissing a contestant on the lips, any more than the left would be attacking President Trump if he were black.
I’m beginning to really dislike these “what if it were instead [insert wronged party]” observations. These are having the cumulative effect of permitting unconscionable cultural, social, and political equivalency. Just today I read a story asking “what if this was said about Jews instead of Muslims?”. This assumes that Jews and Muslims are the same and that any equivalency is valid. That’s insane.
As I’ve said a million times, when middle-aged white cat lady English teachers start blowing people up, I want to be looked at and investigated (as a middle-aged cat lady English teacher). But middle-aged cat lady English teachers and Jews aren’t currently seeking to kill and destroy human lives.
What if someone said that some mild-mannered, respectful group like Christians and Jews were hateful, jihadist killers? It would mean zero. Less than zero. There is no comparison, no equivalency.
If Simon Cowell completely lost his mind and did this, yeah, it would be bad. But he wouldn’t. Ever. Anymore than you or I will commit terrorist acts and invite viable comparisons between jihadis and normal American citizens.
My question is…If the contestant was a girl and Katy Perry kissed her….would she like it????
(I know…bad joke!)
Hee!
“are having the cumulative effect of permitting unconscionable cultural, social, and political equivalency.”
Im not following. My intent is to apply Alinksy – make them live up to their own rules. I’m not being contentious, I didn’t downvote you, I’m simply not understanding how it’s false equivalency. I’m open to being persuaded if you have the time to elaborate, thanks.
I suggest that the right police the right; and the left police the left. Anything else is too easy and leaves the accuser open to accusations that he/she is a hypocrite for ignoring their own side’s peccadilloes.
In the spirit of my own advice, I will leave it at that.
Physician heal thyself.
Oh, I wasn’t really responding to your comment specifically, Fen . . . more to the idea that all these “what if someone said that about [insert whatever]?” does anything beyond having all of us nod our heads in agreement. Yeah, the left would be outraged if a man did this to a young woman in the same situation (unless it’s someone like Obama, whom they’d defend). But we know that. Just as we know that it’s okay to be racist against white people, threaten to rape conservative women, bash Christians, and on and on.
Earlier that day, I read the headline I mentioned, and just groaned. We wouldn’t say that about Jews, not because it’s wrong or xenophobic, or whatever, but because Jewish people are not blowing up, driving vans into, or shooting at crowds as a matter of faith. Saying that we don’t say the same things about Jews as terrorists or illegal aliens is just dumb. Of course we don’t. We don’t have Jewish people flooding across our border, sucking up taxpayer money, and engaging in all manner of criminal activity.
Anyway, this is just beginning to bug me now that Trump is president and everything we say and do is subject to the “what if [blah] said/did/thought that” argument. We spend eight years pointing out the left’s hypocrisy on RAAACISM, etc., and all it did was make them change their language (we’re not RAAACISTS now, we’re white supremacists). And it took eight years for the language change. I’m not going to spend the next decade trying to get them to change the terminology again by pointing out that they’re a squirming, wriggling mass of hypocrisy.
Yikes, I forgot to respond to the part about Alinsky and holding them to their own standards (or as Alinsky put it, making them play by their own rule book). I am a BIG fan of doing this. But holding them to their own standards means just that, not “what if this were completely the opposite thing?!”. If a male judge beloved to the regressive left had done this to a female contestant and was cheered or excuses made, then we hold them to their own standards by demanding that they condemn what actually happened (not a “what if?” scenario).
Both sides miss the actual point Alinsky was about making the other side live up to their own rules.
Missing the point ends up with Republicans whining because Democrats aren’t fiscally conservative, don’t care about the deficit, and etc. Even if they SAY they do, we know and they know (and most importantly, their base knows) that’s just political blather for the uneducated voter who tunes in every four years.
Likewise, the left screeching about the right’s indifference to their global warming hoax is like pointing at Planned Parenthood and saying they provide abortions. The left was great for decades at actually holding the right to its own rule book when it came to family values. Countless Republican politicians have been run out of office and the party for a variety of indiscretions because the GOP was holding up family values and felt it had to kick out anyone who didn’t live up to it.
That’s changed now, of course. The left doesn’t care about Trump and the prostitute, but they think the right does (oddly, we don’t), so they are attempting to hold Trump to the GOP rule book. And they are frustrated has all hell that it’s not working. Alinsky is failing them because Trump isn’t the GOP, and he’s not playing by their rule book. The Dems insistence that he does is missing its mark. Democrats love adulterers, sexual deviance, and all manner of other sins, but we could never touch them on it because we were holding them to our standards and rules, not theirs.
That was the beauty of the #MeToo movement and why Franken was ousted. The left was held to its own rule book, and they had to push him out as a result. Without the regressive left’s #MeToo warlock hunt, Franken could fake-squeeze any sleeping woman’s breasts, and they’d laugh their butts off at his hilarious schtick. As it was, he was out because the right was holding them to their own standards. The base didn’t want Franken out, his colleagues in the Senate didn’t want him out, but they had to oust him on the hysteria wave of their own making. Held to their own #MeToo rules, they had no choice.
Anyway, I’m blathering on and have to get back to work, but I wanted to address your concern and question, Fen, because I really respect you and love your comments.
tldr: we can only hold them to their standards when they are actually violating those standards. When we reverse it or change it even a tiny bit, it’s no longer Alinsky. It’s just an observation that everyone–including them–agrees is true.
We don’t have to ask what if. We know what happens in reverse cases like this. Look at Mary Kay Letourneau. She was caught with the kid twice after release and only after being pregnant and defying release orders was she sent to prison.
I have seen dozens of cases where if the sexes were reversed or races the results would be entirely different.
Get tired of it. Be tired of it. Who cares? It still is true. If you don’t like it. Select a different reality.
Seriously, forksdad? That’s my choice, either go along with saying the same thing over and over to no avail or select a different reality? Um, how about I get tired of it and refuse to engage in it because it’s spitting into the wind and does nothing at all.
We all know it’s true; heck, even they know it’s true. They just come back with “hey, it wasn’t rape-rape” and “you can’t be racist against white people” and “you’re just saying that because white privilege (white supremacy, xenophobia, homophobia, and on and on). Heck, they invent whole new concepts to justify their selective racism, sexism, misogyny, intolerance, and etc. That’s why they now say (and their useful idiots actually believe) that words are “violence” and that white people should be oppressed/not allowed to speak and/or killed because . . . white.
There are very real problems with reacting instead of acting and playing defense instead of offense. We’re back on our heels whining “you would say that if I was black, gay, etc. and etc.”
At some point, it’s worth noting all of this, and you have the right to respond as you wish. I won’t give you only two choices. 😉 But I don’t need to select a different reality to know that banging my head against a wall is stupid.
Katy, who now looks like a Painted Up Saloon Girl from the 1800’s scared this young man, He was saving his lips for the Girl of his Dreams. He was ASSULTED by an Overpainted singer!
Maybe she tasted like ciga-rettes (Forest Gump reference).
Most likely someone else’s vagina.
America Stands United in Hating Katy Perry:
https://www.nationalreview.com/2017/06/she-definitely-not-playing-her-strengths/
To me that looks like the RINOS kissing the Democrats!
“UniParty At Work – Paul Ryan SuperPac Campaigned to Elect Democrat Conor Lamb…”
https://theconservativetreehouse.com/2018/03/15/uniparty-at-work-paul-ryan-superpac-campaigned-to-elect-democrat-conor-lamb/
Awful to get Herpes on a first kiss – and an unwanted one at that.
Wow, just imagine where that mouth has been! Yuk!!
You are so right. That is a sexual assault by Katty Perry!
But what else would Hollyweird do with children?????
Snark Snark.
I would be upset if that skank put her mouth on me to. I mean just the rabies injections alone, geez.
Gremlin, ha! She has taken the smoky eye to rabid racoon heights. Shudder.
I fully commend his attitude, especially coming from out west and a conservative up-bringing.
I find it sad that something as silly as this, not saying she should have done it or that it was welcomed, but come on, it’s still silly to harp on this… yet, because the whole #MeToo mess has ruined lives, some deserving some not, this kind of blow back is expanding. I find it disgusting that women have had to endure unwanted sexual advances, however, this isn’t the 1900’s either. I remember having gone through a big mess for stating that a woman was a b*tch when she was screaming at me over paperwork. (This was involved in construction and she had more colorful language and innuendos than most of the men who worked for me.) I was wrong to call her that, but still, it had zero to do with any harassment as she called herself that on many an occasion. She was a secretary and I was a superintendent, she was supposed to take care of the paperwork for me to review. She claimed I made inappropriate sexual remarks and was bringing me up on harassment charges. This was back in 1998.
How is it that these women only now have a voice when this has been a big issue in most businesses for at least 2 decades? Is it simply because it’s caught up to Hollywood and the rich and powerful?
Now, many men will not travel with women, nor have women alone with them in any setting. Not that it’s a bad idea, I’ve been doing that for decades, as protection for myself against accusations. Sigh. This is progress… while in some areas we have to go back to Victorian era separation to protect against those who will take advantage of such things.
I do think its funny that Katy is being slammed by this, but it is about as credible as the Russia investigation.
The Jacobin Frankenstein. It has now turned on its masters. Lurches through their ranks. And in it’s non-gender-specific wake? We find vicious twitter-reptilians and scavenger-lawyers fighting over the bloodstained remains of Hollywood careers.
BEST YEAR EVER.
Did Katy obtain affirmative consent before hand?
That boy looks underage.
I thought American Idol had been canceled…now you’re telling me it’s back? In God’s name….WHY?
Time for that kid to switch hobbies. Drop the singing and take up, maybe, boxing. Not a lot of “ambush kissing” in boxing.
Kenjutsu’s good, too. When in a room filled with people waving scalpel-sharp katanas around, nobody makes any surprise moves.
Well no surprise moves more than once, lol.
Ick. That is one creepy picture of her kissing him. A lingering sensual kiss from a creepy ol’ Auntie is what it looks like. Poor kid.
That was a
The kiss was less than second and there was nothing sensual about it. It seemed kind of pathetic on Katy’s part.
You might try engaging your brain while writing.
Perhaps you believe that god is on your side and anything you write is inspired?
Maybe the screen shot made the kiss look longer than it was, YGC…
Not sure what elles’ observation has to do with God…(trollin’?)
Wow, you actually made a valid point! The picture captures the moment of eeewww, but the video reveals it does not linger. My bad.
She looks like a rhinoceros dressed up like a pit bull with lipstick on. Poor kid. Yeeech. It probably looks good to you though, being that no one has ever willingly taken the initiative like that. Even your creepy Aunt Mildred.
As for god comment, it’s smug, condescending and nonsensical… just like you.
She’s nuts. There’s also a clip out there where she openly flirting with a guy, knowing his girlfriend was in the wings. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypuBLI3J9jQ
It’s ridiculous most young men would be thrilled to
be kissed by a star.
We have lost our collective minds
A neighbor lady planted a big wet kiss on me once and I liked it a lot. My wife…not so much.
Yes, people have lost their collective minds.
I was 19 a very, very long time ago. Back then such an event would have left a smile on your face not even Mama’s most withering stare could fade. And Dad would have slipped you an “atta boy” when Ma wasn’t looking.
Oh no I am not saying she did anything “wrong”, my revulsion is a personal thing.
She kissed him, he didn’t kiss her.
Katy Perry looks like a transvestite’s nightmare.
What is it with Katy that she thinks kissing an 11 year old boy on national television would be good for him? Could this be considered sexual assault? I bet if Harvey kissed an 11 year old girl it would be.
He’s 19 yrs old….not 11.
What on earth did Katy Perry do to herself?? She used to be absolutely stunning. Now…I have nothing positive to say.
https://imgur.com/gallery/FAdIR
much ado about nothing.
Lets not be like liberals and get all outrageously outragety of this crap.