Everything about feminist jurisprudence is projection:
1) Don’t blame the victim, unless he’s male.
2) Don’t hold responsibility for one night stands, unless it’s a male.
3) Man “hurts” a woman (makes her angry – her actions are always a ‘reaction’ to her ‘hurt’ – never ‘violence’ out of anger) and he gets what he deserves. It’s a punchline in movies, and a theme in many a plot in popular TV shows and movies showing he deserved it. Women, apparently, never deserve revenge to be done to them – for the same actions.

etc etc.

I am taking your post at face value and wish to respond to you in a reasonable way, and not just flame you.

I am an MRA. Why? Because I was falsely accused of rape in college – twice. At different colleges it was my misfortune to date two very different women. One a perpetual victim, who I stopped seeing and who, 7 months later, decided that she needed a dramatic story to get attention – and the other who decided that for my daring to stop dating her she’d “teach me a lesson”.

I am also an MRA because I believe in PARENTS (to include fathers) rights. Not because I was some guy denied access to my child, but because I am a man, who was a child, who was denied a loving and nurturing relationship with my father because my mother (whom I do love dearly) decided that punishing my father by denying him access was more important than the damage such a move would do.

I am an MRA also because I can’t stand double standards, which feminists are ALL about.

What do men have happening that would be a legitimate set of grievances? That’s a fair question.

1) Men die, on average, 7 years earlier than women, and there is an office for Women and Girls’ Health, but none for men.

2) Men use healthcare services, EXCLUDING pregnancy and reproduction, on average, 40% less than women, but we are mandated, by law, to pay the same premiums – we are subsidizing women’s health care – again, even though we die 7 years earlier.

3) Education is geared to how girls learn, and boys are being left behind. In high school graduation rates, in rates if prescriptions for “hyperactivity”, and in programs to engage students – girls/women are the focus.

4) Almost 60% of incoming university freshmen are women – and no one cares young men are being disenfranchised. But there are numerous initiatives, programs, and women-only scholarships to give women “a leg up” in many fields – but none for men.

5) Men’s universities were excoriated and forced to TRULY open up to women – while the “7 Sisters” colleges admit a token amount of men to these Tier 1 schools – and no one cares.

6) More than ***40,000*** men’s sports teams have been disassembled under Title IX – but programs that are female friendly/centric have never had this applied. Generally, men like sports more than women – but all the programs that women like more (whatever they may be from college campus to campus) never face federal lawsuit Title IX challenges.

7) Women-Owned-Businesses are granted special protections and tax breaks, and get preference in contracts – is that equality?

8) 95% of work place deaths are men – and that EXCLUDES the military. No national “Office of Mens and Boys’ Health” exists, nor does any feminist seem to care. MRAs do.

9) Over 90% of the homeless are men. If this were reversed it would be a national topic, but tell me the last time (if ever) you saw a news story that highlighted the plight of the homeless that spot lighted the fact it’s almost all male.

10) Women do not have to register for Selective Service, but there are set asides in the military so that women get a certain cut of the glamour jobs (pilots & command). So women do not have to go to combat, can fight (but only if they want to), and are given short lists for advancement when they CHOOSE to do this. Must be nice to be able to opt out, or get fast tracked.

11) Male children and men who are raped can, and often ARE sued for child support. Yep, they get sexually molested or sexually assaulted and are then made to pay to their sexual abuser – under the threat of prison. The ONLY debtors prison we have in the U.S., outlawed by the Supreme Court under the Anti-Peonage Act, is for child support.

12) Men who are provably not the father, DNA tests have come a long way, can still be obligated for 18-21 years of “child support” for a child they had nothing to do with conceiving. Women on the other hand can utilize safe haven laws, adoption laws, and abortion – but we talk about “deadbeat dads” and you’ll never see a TV special or a national discussion about “deadbeat moms who walk away”.

13) Men basically have the choice at hitting 18 – work until you save enough to retire, or starve. For women there are many more options. In case you think I’m exaggerating – you can Google this – of the women who graduated from Harvard Business School in 1980, 1985, & 1990, less than 15% are working full time. Women who were / are the “go-getters” who competed to get into one of the most elite business schools in the country, and of THAT group, less than 15% are working full time, in their PRIME earning years. Must be nice to have that option – men don’t.

14) Women initiate over 65% of all divorces – and let’s be frank here – you don’t initiate a legal proceeding in which you know you’ll end up the loser. Women get custody over 80% of the time, and while not paying for child support can land you in jail, denying visitation is a deliciously wicked and satisfying way to hurt your spouse for which you’ll almost certainly face no real punishment. That’s vile – and while it does happen to some women (and it’s equally evil no matter who is doing it) the majority of parents alienated from their children are men.

15) Men being drunk and having sex makes them a predator – women being drunk and having sex makes them a victim. In no other area of law is this blatant divide solely based on gender so glaringly obvious and abused.

16) Women and men who commit the same crimes are often not charged with the same offence, women are allowed to plea to far lower offences and then besides that they get a steep sentencing discount for the same crime.

These are some serious issues – going from childhood to the grave, from education to prison, from healthcare to legal set asides in all stages of life. MRAs have issues with feminist legal initiatives because those programs & initiatives are blatantly bigoted and, largely, never talked about in our society.

Give it some thought.

It would be as if we took a couple who were fighting and claimed the male was a batterer and the woman was innocent. Or we took a couple who got drunk and had relations and accused the male of rape.

Except that this is what we do.

If it has earned an ‘ism’ in popular culture, it will have organized to some degree, often to a high degree. This brings on the inertia of victimhood wherein the reperesentative organization behind the ism must nitpick where offense cannot be found, and often devolves into outright fakery of offenses.

To keep the orgs and their often high-salaried proponents alive, you have to keep the ism alive. The tail now wags the dog.

Imagine if life were hard here in America. Truly hard. Frontier life hard. Just how quickly would these ideological indulgences evaporate?

If being wrong meant the difference between life or death, people who make a habit of finding new and creative ways of being wrong would not be long for this world.

Almost makes me want to wish for such a world.

Alimony still exists? We’re my wife and I to divorce I would have no qualms about paying my fair share to financially support our child as he grows up. But there is no way in hell I’m going to give someone money just because she used to be my wife. That is pure freaking insanity.

I would simply not pay.

Alimony is a violation of the 13th amendment, and therefore unconstitutional.

Don’t forget that the child support payments themselves are just the tip of the iceberg, as the poor sucker we call “dad” is often forced to pay for all the court costs, her lawyer, college, and health insurance (which is super-expensive because the kid isn’t legally his dependent) on top of the basic child support payment.

To these young yapping feminazis, pish tosh!

Valerie, how many men have been paying child support for other men’s children? How many men have been deprived of the right to see their children by a vindictive ex- who might even go so far as to coach the child to lie that daddy abused it? How many men are put through hoops when they try to see their child? How many times have the courts refused to grant a man custody of his children? Sure, there are deadbeats, but the courts have had a major role in creating those deadbeats, often by not ensuring that the letter of the law of the custody arrangement is followed by the custodial parent, often the moms, some of whom are stone cold vindictive bitches.

The legal system has been abysmally and grossly unfair to heterosexual men, treating them as wallets without feeling. Is it any wonder that some men respond similarly? What man wants to be just an open wallet? No wonder men are turning away and not getting married.

That link is to a Prager University production about boys.

Feminist “theory” has been so successful and pervasive…especially in “education” colleges, that being a normal male is really a handicap in a lot of settings.

Screw THAT…!!!

The feminists ALSO gave us the entire concept of a “hook-up culture” in which young women can behave as young men are told THEY behave.

I am for bringing back the code of chivalry. And modesty, respect, and continence in both…ok…ALLL…sexes.